LDE is
pleased to present DreamSpeak: An Interview with a Lucid
Dreamer. In this three part series, Robert Waggoner
interviews long time lucid dreamer Beverly D'Urso. (Please
note, as with all material in LDE, the author retains
copyright of his or her material. In this interview, the
questions are by Robert Waggoner and the responses are
copyright of Beverly D'Urso.)
DREAMSPEAK AN
INTERVIEW WITH BEVERLY D'URSO: A LUCID DREAMER - PART
TWO(c) Beverly D'Urso Questions by Robert
Waggoner
Beverly D'Urso (formerly Beverly
Kedzierski, and also Bev Heart) is an incredible lucid
dreamer. She served as Stephen LaBerge's main lucid dream
research subject in the early years of his research work, and
helped provide key insights into lucid dreaming. Interviewed
by magazines, national and local television, and other media,
Beverly has promoted a greater understanding of lucid dreaming
and "lucid living." The LDE is pleased to provide a
multi-issue interview of this fascinating lucid dreamer.
Robert: So Beverly, you have been lucid dreaming
regularly since you were a child, and helped Stephen LaBerge
scientifically prove the existence of lucid dreaming as his
main research subject. But did your time in lucid dreaming
affect your other dreams, or were they everyday, normal
dreams?
Beverly: In 1982, after becoming extremely
proficient in lucid dreaming,I spontaneously began having
precognitive dreams. These are dreams of things that happen
later in the waking state. For me, these dreams usually had
great detail, were very emotional, and the waking scenario
would occur within a few days of the dream. However, my
precognitive dreams usually have not been lucid. I was sure
that they were not due merely to coincidence. I even described
the events, in detail, to others, who were later present
during the waking scenario. My previous view of the physical
world as being "solid," and having precise rules, had turned
upside down!
Robert: How did you respond to having your
world view altered by your lucid and precognitive
dreaming?
Beverly: These experiences caused me to
explore other psychic phenomenon. I began reading books, such
as Jane Robert's "Seth" work. I needed to make sense of what
was happening to me. Again, I thought of life being a dream.
It would explain how such things like precognitive dreams
could occur. Maybe, I needed to become more lucid in life in
order to really see it as a dream. My dreams often seemed as
real as physical reality, sometimes more so. The more I
thought of the implications of life being a dream, the more it
made sense. We could all be dream characters in a dream we
call life. Was there a Dreamer dreaming us all? However,
during this time, I was still a scientist trying to finish my
Ph.D. I did not want to be distracted by these ideas so much,
that I never finished my degree. I decided to put them off for
awhile.
Robert: That's understandable. So how did
the dissertation go?
Beverly: In my waking state, I was having
trouble writing my doctoral dissertation. I decided to try
writing it in my dreams first. In one dream, I found myself
lying in bed. The desk in the room was in the wrong place, so
I realized that I was dreaming. I headed for my computer, to
start writing. I found that I could not move. I was paralyzed.
I told myself, "This is my dream, and I can do what I want!" I
slowly made it to the desk. I looked down, and I saw that the
chair seat was an opening for "the pit to hell." Flames swept
up, and it sounded and smelled awful! I was, however,
determined to succeed. Holding my breath, I sat down, ready to
be sucked into the pit. Instead, I woke up, and within a very
short time, I finished writing my dissertation in the area of
artificial intelligence.
Robert: That's a great story. I recall
being at an Association for the Study of Dreams' presentation,
where one of the speakers admitted that his realistic dream of
fighting the devil occurred when he was undergoing the oral
and written defense of his doctoral dissertation! So what
happened after you finished your dissertation?
Beverly: I finished my Ph.D. in 1983 and
my career really took off! I was very involved in starting up
businesses and traveling around the world. In 1987, I took a
short break from this computer science work to help Stephen
LaBerge form the Lucidity Institute.
By this time, we had been experimenting for awhile with
lucid dreaming induction techniques to help others more easily
become lucid in their dreams. At first, we tried to send clues
to the dream world by using smells and sounds. In one
experiment, I tape-recorded my own voice saying, "I am
dreaming, now!" A technician would play the tape when I was in
REM sleep, making it gradually louder. However, as soon as the
sound became loud enough for me to hear in the dream, it would
wake me up. This was when we decided to send light to the
dream, instead. Light could be more easily incorporated into
the dream and used as a clue to induce a lucid dream, for
someone trained to look for the flashinglight in their
dream.
Robert: So, forgiving my pun, you and
Stephen saw the light. How did that work?
Beverly: We developed a mask that people
could wear to sleep at night, which could recognize REM eye
movements. If a person was in REM sleep, it would then flash a
light, which would get incorporated into the dream. If users
were trained to look for the light, they could learn to
question whether or not the light was from the mask, and, more
importantly, question whether or not they were dreaming. The
light might appear as flashing stoplights in street scenes, or
as lightning flashing in the sky. Many versions of this dream
mask eventually got developed, including the Dream Light and
the Nova Dreamer.
I created the first business plan to market this lucidity
induction device. I also helped Stephen give lucid dreaming
workshops. In 1990, I decided to lead my own personal groups
and workshops on lucid dreaming, which soon became lucid
dreaming/lucid living.
Robert: Interesting. When you started out
on your own leading lucid dream workshops, did you feel like
you had your own unique vision of lucid dreaming?
Beverly: Sharing a little of my
introduction to lucid dreaming will clarify how I look at
things. When we become "lucid" in our sleeping dreams, we
become aware that we dream while we dream. Some people never
remember their dreams, some remember them after they have been
awake for a while, and some remember them just after or before
they awaken. Lucid dreamers remember they dream while the
dream takes place. They do not necessarily analyze the dream,
or look for symbols, but directly and consciously experience
the dream, shortening the time it takes to realize they
dream.
To me, lucid dreaming does not mean merely "visualizing",
"daydreaming", "clear" dreaming, or even "controlled"
dreaming, necessarily. Also, I personally believe in levels of
lucidity, as a spectrum. I would say I am partially lucid, if
I just remember to question if I am dreaming. I'd call myself
definitely lucid, if I know I am dreaming for sure. I consider
myself very lucid, if I can control or change things in the
dream, not that I always do. Finally, when I am most lucid, I
often do not experience a body, but I have a very powerful,
spiritual-like experience.
In a lucid dream, I feel free to do whatever I please, have
fun, experiment, solve problems, accomplish goals, and go
wherever my imagination takes me, taking care to balance
spontaneity and control. I have learned that sometimes it is
better to surrender to the dream. Other times, it helps to
take control, change things, or carry out goals.
I have remembered, on average, half a dozen dreams per
night, for most of my life. I'd say that between 2 and 20
dreams per week were lucid, to various degrees. So, I'd say a
good estimate of how many lucid dreams I have had would be
20,000. Unfortunately, I am not a very good recorder of
dreams, nor I have organized my dream reports very well. I
have, however, kept track of the ones I consider most
valuable.
Robert: A thousand here, a thousand there-
at that point, who's counting? No, that's incredible. So how
have you used your lucid dreaming knowledge and skills in your
presentations and workshops?
Beverly: Here are a few examples of how I
worked with my students in my groups. I would often ask my
students to choose a goal for a lucid dream. One student told
me he'd like to bike around the world. I told him to start
simple. He first had to become lucid, remember the task, stay
in the dream, and find a bike to ride. He accomplished this in
several months. Finally, one day he reported that he had
ridden his bike through Russia in his dreams. Shortly after
this, he told me that he could no longer attend my group. He
was quitting his job, selling his house, and taking five years
off to bike around the world!
Another time, a friend I had just met asked me to dream for
him. I dreamed I was in a theater and was watching a movie
that he is in. Later, I told him the story, and I discovered
that I had dreamed his life, including things he never told
anyone.
Once, I told a friend's eight year old nephew about lucid
dreaming. I helped him practice lucid dream induction
techniques while awake. I asked him what he'd like to do in a
dream. He said he'd like to meet a president of the United
States. In a few days, he called me to tell me that he had a
lucid dream. He didn't find Washington or Lincoln, but he did
meet up with the artist, Leonardo da Vinci. He said that it
was okay, because da Vinci was famous too. I asked him what
happened. He told me that he asked da Vinci if da Vinci knew
that he was in the encyclopedia. Then he showed da Vinci some
of his own artwork. The boy was very happy with his lucid
dream, and very pleased with himself.
Robert: Did listening to your students'
lucid experiences and challenges inspire you to try out new
things in your own lucid dreams?
Beverly: Yes, sometimes I would decide
ahead of time to meet up with people in my dreams. I have
succeeded in dreaming of the people, but none have ever told
me that they had the same dream. That would be called a
"mutual dream." It is easier for me to attempt a mutual dream
when I am lucid, because I can stop and remember my goal. I
have an easier time making it happen, as well.
I often try to accomplish tasks for my students so we can
discuss issues that arise, and also to see if we could have a
mutual dream. Here is a dream I had when trying to have a
mutual dream with a student named Sharon.
I found myself in front of my childhood home and noticed
that it looked strange. The door wasn't in the right place and
the house was situated improperly on the block. This happens
often in my dreams, so at that moment I became lucid. I knew I
was dreaming and I remembered that I had a goal for this
dream. However, I saw a neighbor, who I knew had died, and I
first stopped to talk to her. In previous dreams, I would see
her and say, "You are dead!" and try to get on with my goal.
She would get upset and say, "I'm here now, so talk to me!"
Unless I did, I learned that I would have trouble completing
my goal.
My goal for the dream was to meet Sharon in the Bahamas.
Immediately, I began to fly like superman heading south,
because I was in the Chicago area at the time. It was dark,
and I had a long way to go. By this time in my lucid dreaming
experience, I could fly through electric wires that were in my
way, but now I had another idea. I could make myself
miniature, go into the wire as electricity itself, and get
there very quickly. So I got tiny and popped into the nearest
wire, which appeared like a large tunnel once I was inside. I
was whisked very fast, shooting headfirst down the line, until
I abruptly popped out the end of the wire. As my normal self
again, I was somewhere at the southern tip of the United
States, at the ocean's edge, where the electric lines
stopped.
I realized I didn't have much time left, and I decided to
travel the rest of the way underwater, doing a kind of
superman swim/flying. I soon got distracted by the lovely
underwater life and the joy of moving so fast, while breathing
the water. I finally made it to a lovely beach in the Bahamas.
I asked a guy, who was serving drinks to the sunbathers, if
there was a restaurant nearby. This was the place where Sharon
and I agreed we would try to meet. He pointed down the beach,
and I walked to a resort type building, and then through a
long hall. I was about to ask the host if Sharon was waiting
for me, when I saw "her" sitting on a bench. She didn't look
like she was expecting me, so I said, "Don't you remember that
you said you wanted to dream of going to the Bahamas, and I
said I'd meet you in a lucid dream of my own? Well, this is
it. We are dreaming now."
I was thinking that this dream girl was "Sharon," a
dream-body who was connected to Sharon, who was probably
asleep in bed in Mountain View, California. If I had seen her
as a projection of myself, I may have decided not to talk to
her, believing that she wasn't connected in any way to the
physical Sharon. In this case, I said to her, "Well, I'll tell
you a secret, and we'll see if you remember it when I see you
in our group next week." I whispered a secret in her ear, and
soon afterwards I woke up.
Robert: So what happened after this lucid
dream? Did she call you in waking reality or have any memory
of the dream?
Beverly: When Sharon came to my lucid
dreaming group that Sunday night, she had forgotten the goal
and had never dreamed of me, nor the Bahamas. I am still
waiting, as I am with others, for her to report a related
dream or for her to tell me the secret!
Around this time, I had a dream where I was riding my bike
down the street of my childhood home. I became lucid and
started flying into the air. I was flying over the nearby
river, when a cartoon figure of a dolphin floated in front of
me. The dolphin danced around, and then asked me if I'd like
to go on an adventure. After putting out its fin for me to
hold onto, it proceeded to pull me down into the ocean, which
was now where the river had previously been. Something similar
had happened to me, with a whale shark, in the waking state,
while I was scuba diving. The dolphin and I traveled deeper
and deeper, faster and faster. I felt both ecstatic and
somewhat dizzy, almost as though the experience were too
intense. I woke up, however, feeling fantastic; very peaceful,
yet energized.
Robert: That's great. Did you have any
more experiences with dolphins in dreams or waking life?
Beverly: A few years later, I noticed an
ad from a man who took people on dolphin expeditions. I
contacted him, and we eventually did a joint lucid
dreaming/dolphin swimming workshop on a sailboat in the
Bahamas. On this trip, while I was in the crystal clear water
of the open sea, one of the dolphins rubbed up to me.
Underwater, its color and shape looked remarkably similar to
the dolphin of my dreams.
Robert: So what other lucid dreaming
stories come to mind?
Beverly: When I was thirty-seven years
old, I became very anxious to find a mate, get married, and
have children. During the Christmas holidays, while visiting
my parents, I had the following dream. I met up with myself at
the age of twenty-one, who was sad because she was about to
leave her college boyfriend, so she could travel and have a
career. I told my twenty-one year old self that I had done
those things. I said that I now wanted a husband and children.
She introduced me to my alternative self, who was also 37, and
who had married my college boyfriend. They had three children,
and now she wanted to divorce him. My twenty-one year old self
and I decided that everything was as it should be. Finally, I
woke up. As I am writing down the dream, I hear an inner
voice, as if from a future self, who says, "Everything is
perfect as it is!" I finally believed it. I trusted that I
would find my perfect mate, when the time was right. I didn't
need to worry about it. I decided that if life is a dream,
then my dreams would come true. I imagined that anything was
possible, even after I read a Newsweek article, which said
that a woman was more likely to die from terrorists, than to
get married after forty! I did, however, prepare my life for
my future family by buying a house, getting a dog, which was
supposed to be good with kids, and taking a job as a college
teacher, which I thought would work well with being a mom. I
met my husband two years after this dream.
Robert: It's interesting in that story how
your conversation in the lucid dream leads to a strong
conviction that "Everything is perfect as it is!" and
following that revelation, you move ahead and buy a house and
prepare for your future family. That is one thing that many
casual lucid dreamers fail to see - how a lucid dream
experience can be as powerful or more powerful than many
significant waking experiences. Have you ever used waking
reality to practice becoming lucid?
Beverly: In my groups, we would practice
becoming lucid while awake. I would give my students
exercises, such as, questioning if they are dreaming, several
times a day. For example, I asked them to check if they were
dreaming every time they washed their hands during the day. I
jokingly said, "If your hand falls off, you are most
definitely in a dream!" Around this time, I was also helping
my mother with her dreams of my dad after he died, in 1992.
She was having recurring dreams of my dad, who would appear
next to her bed. She would fear that he was here to take her
to heaven. I told my mom, "If you see dad, remember that he
died, and therefore you must be dreaming!" A few days after I
gave my group the hand exercise, she was able to get lucid in
her recurring dream. My mother remembered that my father had
died, and she knew she was dreaming. She was even able to take
his hand, and his hand fell off.She did not know about the
exercise when she reported the dream to me the next
morning.
Robert: Beautiful. Did trying to become
lucid while awake lead to any revelations?
Beverly: Yes, I saw how powerful it could
be to become lucid in waking life. I met my husband, Chris,
six months after my father died. It was the most lucid day I
have ever experienced. We were at a party, and I saw him from
across the room. I knew that he was my future. It was love at
first sight. I was able to stay in the moment, without fear,
and with total trust. I believed in magic, while been totally
accepting whatever happened. I was able to listen to him, as
if he were truly part of myself.
I was very sorry, however, that he never got to meet my
father, when I had the next dream. I was in my childhood home,
where my mom still lived, and I saw my dad on the couch. I
remembered that he died, and that I must be dreaming. I went
to sit next to him and told him that I loved him. I asked him
why, lately, he hadn't appeared as often in my dreams. He said
that he was helping me from under the bridge. I'm not sure
what he meant, but I was happy to hear his voice and feel him
close. Next, I embraced him, and after we hugged, I looked
back into his eyes. He had turned into my husband, whom I so
much wanted my dad to meet. I soon awakened and felt as though
they had finally met, at some level.
Chris and I were married in less than a year after we met.
We knew that we wanted to have a child. After much medical
help to get pregnant, I decided to work on the issue in my
dreams.
I decided to dream of our future baby. I would ask
questions of the baby in the dream such as, "When are you
coming?" I would also try to determine what year it was in the
dream. Sometimes the baby would have messages.
Robert: It's fascinating how you seem to
work on "the future" to some degree in your lucid dreams.
Maybe it is not the future, so much as your hopes for the
future. Did you have many other lucid dreams of trying to
influence the future?
Beverly: One time, in waking reality, I
was back in my childhood home, alone for the first time. My
mom was ill, and in the hospital. My Dad had died over two
years ago. I was afraid, crying in my bed. I fell asleep.
Spontaneously, without trying to influence the future, I had a
type of nurturing dream involving the future. I became lucid
in my dream, when I noticed that the baby, from my baby
picture on the wall, was coming out of the picture. I walked
over to myself as a baby, just in time to take the baby in my
arms. As I held her, I saw my face in hers, and I pulled her
to my chest. I could see her lips sucking at my breast, and I
felt very fulfilled. I slowly awakened, and I felt my own lips
moving, as well. I was deeply nurtured. A year later I nursed
my own child in that very bed!
Before my son, Adrian, was born, however, I also had some
interactions with my childhood witches. My witch dreams went
through many transformations during my life. In 1960, I faced
up to the scary witches from my recurring nightmares. In the
1970's, I looked for the witches of my childhood in a dream,
and they appeared as harmless, little old ladies. In the
1980's, I noticed that the witch drama appeared in my waking
life as well. In 1994, doctors gave me terrible odds against
having a child. So, I looked for the witches in a lucid dream,
thinking of them as my "creative power," and I brought them
into my uterus. Within a year, I got pregnant with my son,
Adrian.
Adrian was born during the 1995 Association for the Study
of Dreams Conference (ASD95). This was three years after I
presented the paper at ASD92 called, "What I Learned from
Lucid Dreaming is Lucid Living." I brought him to the ASD96
conference. He also came to the ASD97 conference, where I gave
a workshop called, "Living Life as a Lucid Dream." Adrian
turned two on the day of the dream ball.
Robert: In a way, it seems that your lucid
dreaming skills allowed you to use that beautiful symbol of
witches as creative power for your own ends. In a sense, you
claimed the power of the shadow.
Go to Part 3 of this
interview.
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