Electric Dreams and DreamGate.com have been
offering peer dreamgroups online for many years and we would like to share our
process with those who are interested in starting your own groups. Feel free to
copy these process files and/or modify them for your own groups. We also
recommend developing an ethics statement and of course, visiting and trying our
DreamWheel or eDreams dream sharing groups online.
Below is a slightly edited version of Kathy Turner's DreamWheel instructions.
The names and titles and email addresses have been changed. If you are
interested in joining a dream group, please send your request to Kathy Turner
kathyturner@bigpond.com or Richard Wilkerson rcwilk@dreamgate.com
Please read "A
Brief History of the DreamWheel" for more information and about how the
groups were formed, as well as the early experimenters and research upon which
these groups have been developed.
Briefly, the group works by going through different phases. Everyone agrees
to the process and ethics of the group, and sends in dreams to the moderator or
facilitator. The moderator orders the dreams and creates and index or table of
contents. The group works on one dream at a time. The moderator picks the dream
and sends out a Question Phase note to the group and the group responds with
clarification questions only. The dreamer may or may not reply. Then the group
sends in comments, taking the dream as their own. Again the dreamer may or may
not reply and some closure may be necessary, and sometimes a questionnaire is
sent to check on how the process is working.
Note that the moderator includes at the beginning of each phase [Questions
& Comments Phase] some of the following information: the table of contents,
or who-is-next list, the instructions for the phase, the dream itself and
information on how to leave the list if needed. The moderator can also add to
the success of the group by careful attention to the process and making
supporting and non-interpretive or non- judgmental comments. This creates group
cohesion.
Here is a summary of the process:
1. Establish a mail list and a moderator for the group, invite members and
give out the ethics statement. Members may also wish or be encouraged to use pen
names or sign up anonymously.
2. Moderator asks members to send in dreams to the moderator with pen names
and titles.
These dreams are collected and used over a month or two, so they need to be
organized and kept together. The moderator creates a Dream List, a table of
contents showing whose dream is up for discussion next. Note that Kathy Turner
also makes short notes on the Dream List. This helps people know what dream is
being worked on, what dreams were recently being discussed and may still be in
discussion and which dreams are coming up for discussion.
3. Moderator picks the first dream and sends out a QUESTION PHASE instruction
page, which includes the dream list, the instructions, the dream, subscription
information and friendly notes that may refer to the group and the group's
process, other dreams and other news the moderator may wish to interject.
4. The group sends in questions to the dreamer and the dreamer may or may not
reply. It is up to the moderator when to move from the question phase to the
comments phase. Generally the dreamer will send replies and this makes it clear
when to move on.
5. Moderator sends out COMMENT PHASE instructions page. Again, it includes
the dream list, the instructions, the dream, subscription information and
friendly notes that may refer to the group and the group's process, other dreams
and other news the moderator may wish to interject.
6. The group sends in comments, taking the dream as if it were their own, and
the dreamer may or many not reply. It is up to the moderator when to send in
some closing remarks and move on to the next dreams. Usually the dreamer will
send back comments and this is the place to end the process. Sometimes
conversations may occur as well for sometime. Generally we have found that after
the dreamer replies to comments, the group is ready and comfortable moving on to
another dream, though overlapping discussion may still occur. Due to the nature
of mail lists, multiple processes and discussions may occur without too much
disruption.
7. If someone sends in comments or questions that fall outside the
instructions, the variance tolerance is up to the moderator. Some moderators
encourage and enjoy going beyond the instructions, while others like to make
sure people are aware of the basic processes before doing creative dreamwork. A
gentle reminder of the process, like sending the instructions again or pieces of
them to the whole group such as "Please keep all questions during the
question phase to description clarification only." is usually enough to
bring the group back onto track. Again, some moderators may wish to open up the
question phase to include other kinds of questions, or add an additional
question phase after the comment phase. If a group member has been kindly warned
but persists, several approaches are possible. The first is to remind commenter
that the dream interpretations they are making need to be in the spirit of as if
it were their own dream. All questions and comments may help the dreamer, but
are considered relating to the commenter. Another approach is to resend the
ethics statement into the list. Finally, the moderator has the authority to
remove or unsubscribe members from the group. They are free to do so as they
wish, either by vote or by temporary authority assigned to them as moderator. In
the six years of online dreamgroups I have participated in, this has never been
an issue and I can't recall this every happening.
Below are sample files for the Question and Comment phases.
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INTRODUCTION AND QUESTION PHASE
Hello to everyone on the DreamWheel!
Thanks for all the comments on Marty' dream, I found them insightful and was
moved by them myself.
So now the Wheel keeps spinning onto John's dream:: "Flying
Spiders"
Below is the schedule and the instructions for this phase and then the dream.
Please glance over the instructions then scroll down to the dream, read it
and then send in questions to the DreamWheel (dreamwheel@dreamgate.com).
Kathy
Schedule
Dream: by Lacy - focus finished but still open
Dream: "The Gravity Well" by Kevin - focus finished but still open
Dream: "With Mr C., " by Carry -
focus finished but still open
Dream: "Almond Revenge" by Marty -
focus finished but still open
Dream: "Flying Spiders" by John - FOCUS DREAM
Dream: "Diamond Shifting" by Magdelana
Dream: by Emmy (to be announced)
Dream: by Rockmany
Dream: by Sussieq
Dream: "Getting off " by Claude
Dream: " Wedding Day" by Mary
Instructions:
Asking questions of the dreamer
In this phase of the process you may ask the dreamer questions about the
dream that may clarify the images of the dream. Do not ask questions that call
for interpretations or that ask for material outside of the dream itself. The
aim is to get to know the dream well AND also to allow for the maximum number of
possible meanings being generated.
Clarifying Questions:
Example: If this were the DREAM: "He turned around and grabbed Bill's
jacket away from me."
You can ask:
1. Questions about the details of any aspect of the dream AS they appeared IN
the dream, for example:
(feeling details) How did you feel (in the dream) when he grabbed Bill's jacket?
(action details) Can you describe exactly how he grabbed Bill's jacket (eg where
was he in relation to you; what movement did he make; what movement did you
make)?
(content detail) What kind of jacket was it? How were you holding the jacket?
Where were you when he grabbed the jacket?
2. Questions about how any "real" people or places in the dream
differed from their "real" presentation in daytime life, for example:
(who/what was recognizable) Who is the "he" that grabbed the jacket?
Do you know him? Is the place where this happened to you recognizable? (how does
the "familiar differ) Was Bill's jacket the same in the dream as in your
daytime life? If not, how was it different in the dream?
3. Questions about what a person/object/action etc means for the dream ego.
You can ask it something like: "What would the dream (plus name) have
thought of the person/object/action etc". This makes sure that the emphasis
remains on the dream and the dream ego rather than switching it to the daytime
ego (who may have very different views upon the matter!).
Please DON'T ask interpretation questions or questions about material OUTSIDE
of the dream itself. For example AVOID questions like:
Why do you think he grabbed your jacket? (though you might ask if any reasons
went through your head during the dream.)
Did you know that Jackets represent symbols of appearance issues?
Do you often have men grabbing your clothes in dreams?
What does standing behind someone mean to you?
Dreamers in reply
If and when you reply to the questions, do so only to clarify the dream. Try
to avoid interpretations at this point. If it is not clear from the dream how to
answer a question, simply say it was not clear.
Send questions to the dreamer to via the whole group at
dreamwheel@dreamgate.com
John's Dream:
Flying Spiders/ 5.12.98
I walked into my house and there were things flying all around. At first I
thought they were bats, but I saw a lot of spiderwebs and decided they were
spiders. I went into the kitchen to get away and then saw out my window that all
the trees had cobwebs as well. It was clear to me that the spiders had somehow
mutated, learned how to fly and were now going to wrap the world in a big web. I
wondered what it would like to become a spider.
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If anyone would like to unsubscribe from the DreamWheel... (instructions
here)
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COMMENT PHASE MESSAGE
Hello to all dreamers on the DreamWheel,
Now we move the Wheel onto the comment phase for John's dream, "Flying
Spiders". You don't have to have asked a question to comment and your
comment doesn't have to pick up all John's dream images - just comment on
anything that would mean something to you, if it had been your dream.
What you have to say may just unlock some meaning for John and it may help you
too. Have a go!!
Below is the schedule and the instructions for this phase and then the dream.
Please glance over the instruction then scroll down to the dream, read it and
then send in comments to the dreamwheel (dreamwheel@dreamgate.com).
Kathy
Schedule
Dream: by Lacy - focus finished but still open
Dream: "The Gravity Well" by Kevin - focus finished but still open
Dream: "With Mr C., " by Carry - focus finished but still open
Dream: "Almond Revenge" by Marty - focus finished but still open
Dream: "Flying Spiders" by John - FOCUS DREAM
Dream: "Diamond Shifting" by Magdelana
Dream: by Emmy (to be announced)
Dream: by Rockmany
Dream: by Sussieq
Dream: "Getting off " by Claude
Dream: " Wedding Day" by Mary
Comment instructions
In this part of the process, you may comment on the dream. While you are
welcome to make any comments you wish, what we are teaching in this group is
non-defensive style developed by John Herbert (Montague Ullman stage II
variation) modified for email.
This segment is the one in which each group member takes the dream as if it
were his or her own and shares feelings and thoughts about the dream and what it
might mean in each members life situation.
1. You can comment on what ANY aspect of the dream means FOR YOU:
a. The feelings YOU have about any aspect of the dream or about the whole
dream.
b. The metaphorical or symbolic meanings FOR YOU of any actions or images in the
dream.
c. The relationship between any dream images and events and what that
relationship means FOR YOU.
d. The relationship between all dream images and events as YOU see them (you can
change the order of events and images and present them in the way you feel makes
most sense to YOU).
2. In your comments make the dream your own:
a. At the beginning of all comment files or e-mail use something like :
"If this were my dream..."
This sets up the general subjective attitude and works as a reminder to the
commentators that they are not telling the dreamer what they think the dream
means for the dreamer, but rather what the dream might mean for themselves if
they had had that dream.
b. To further this relationship to the dream write the commentary as if you
were talking about your OWN dream happening NOW (use the first person singular
and also present tense) in your commentary:
EXAMPLE: Dream: "I'm looking at my mother walking down a long hall
towards an open window."
I might comment "In MY dream the nurturing mother has found a new way to
escape ME."
In my comment, it is "my mother", "my hallway" and
"my dream".
This may or may not provide insight to the initial dreamer, but its
surprising how often this non- defensive approach does lead to new insights for
both the dreamer and the commentator.
3. Send your comments in to the whole group. dream-on@lists.best.com
Dreamer's response
At the end of the comment phase the dream is returned to its source and the
dreamer can reply. The type of reply is entirely up to the dreamer - but some
response helps both the commentators and the dreamer. It provides closure for
the commentators and helps the dreamer to make what was learned in the process
more firmly his/her own.
1. Immediate response:
The dreamer gives some IMMEDIATE response.
a. The dreamer can indicate what possible new ways of thinking or acting or
feeling were opened up by the process of answering the clarifying questions and
of reading the comments from others.
b. The dreamer may like to indicate what life context the dream seems to be
addressing and whether the DreamWheel process revealed new aspects of that
context.
c. The dreamer may just wish to thank the commentators.
2. Later Response
The dreamer can do further work on the dream. He/she may gain new insights
connected with their dream:
a. through other dreams (which are either consciously incubated or which just
arise)
b. through insights from the initial DreamWheel process which come after the
focus period
c. through some new awareness of their life context
The dreamer can then share their insights with others on the DreamWheel AT ANY
TIME. Such sharing can help build the dream group as a group. It can also teach
us all much more about the interplay of dreams and our daytime lives.
John's Dream:
Flying Spiders/ 5.12.98
I walked into my house and there were things flying all around. At first I
thought they were bats, but I saw a lot of spiderwebs and decided they were
spiders. I went into the kitchen to get away and then saw out my window that all
the trees had cobwebs as well. It was clear to me that the spiders had somehow
mutated, learned how to fly and were now going to wrap the world in a big web. I
wondered what it would like to become a spider.
If you'd like to reserve a place for a dream just email me:
moderator@dreamgate.com
If anyone would like to unsubscribe from the DreamWheel you
can...[instructions here]
Dreamwork Ethics Statement
All eDreams & DreamWheel members are obliged to adhere to the ethical
standards established by the Electric Dreams community:
The Electric Dreams community celebrates the many benefits of dreamwork, yet
recognizes that there are potential risks. We agree with the ethical position
taken by the Association for the Study of Dreams (http://www.asdream.org), in
that we support an approach to dreamwork and dream sharing that respects the
dreamer's dignity and integrity, and which recognizes the dreamer as the
decision-maker regarding the significance of the dream. Systems of dreamwork
that assign authority or knowledge of the dream's meanings to someone other than
the dreamer can be misleading, incorrect, and harmful. Ethical dreamwork helps
the dreamer work with his/her own dream images, feelings, and associations, and
guides the dreamer to more fully experience, appreciate, and understand the
dream.
Every dream may have multiple meanings, and different techniques may be
reasonably employed to touch these multiple layers of significance. A dreamer's
decision to share or discontinue sharing a dream should always be respected and
honored. The dreamer should be forewarned that unexpected issues or emotions may
arise in the course of the dreamwork. Information and mutual agreement about the
degree of privacy and confidentiality are essential ingredients in creating a
safe atmosphere for dream sharing.
Dreamwork outside a clinical setting is not a substitute for psychotherapy,
or other professional treatment, and should not be used as such.
We recognize and respect that there are many valid and time-honored dreamwork
traditions. We invite and welcome the participation of dreamers from all
cultures. There are social, cultural, and transpersonal aspects to dream
experience. In this statement we do not mean to imply that the only valid
approach to dreamwork focuses on the dreamer's personal life. Our purpose is to
honor and respect the person of the dreamer as well as the dream itself,
regardless of how the relationship between the two may be understood.
The Electric Dreams Community, March 2000
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